Life can put a lot of pressure on us. Pressure from school or work, relationships, friendships, mental and physical health, and even self appreciation. As big as social media is nowadays, as a woman, we can feel pressure to look, dress, or act a certain way. We see all of these celebrities and famous social media stars looking perfect. A lot of us base our looks and feelings upon how someone else thinks of us. I’m guilty of this and I bet many of you are too! Most of the time this is not intentionally but it happens. We want to have that certain body type with no fat and the best abs. We want to have the long, beautiful hair that is styled perfectly. We desire to have the newest in style clothes that famous bloggers or celebrities are wearing. We sit here scrolling through these photos comparing ourself to others out in the world. It’s a toxic thing to do because we just lead ourselves down a road of disappointment.
What most people don’t realize is that, the pictures are just what that word says: picture. The photo has been edited and staged. That person who posted the photo probably took 50 different ones because the 49 other photos had something off about it. The lighting hit their face the wrong way or the smile didn’t look natural. The shot captured wasn’t their best angle. Whatever it is, everyone does this so we can have the best picture to share with the world.
Another thing we all don’t realize is that the person posting probably compares themself to others as well. But we shouldn’t have to! We all need to love our bodies and ourselves for who we are. God made us the way we are for a reason. He wanted us to be unique and to be our own person. He gave us our lives to make a difference in this world. We shouldn’t let any man or woman define who we are. We as individuals define ourselves. No one needs to change for anyone. You are good enough for everything. This is something I’ve always struggled with. Over this last year, I have been learning to love myself more and know my worth. I’m worth everything and so are all of you. I will not let anyone make me think I am not good enough anymore.
My past relationships put me into a position where I felt unimportant. Someone else was better than I was is what I believed. I truly believed for a long time that I wouldn’t be good enough for any man. I felt ugly. I begged for people to stay in my life who didn’t want to be there. I didn’t think I was smart enough to become a nurse. I had all of these negative thoughts that just brought me down. I have gone through a big mental change where I realized I was wrong. My past relationships taught me to respect myself more to know what I deserved. My journey through nursing school and passing my boards showed I had what it took to become a nurse. I look at myself in the mirror every day knowing I am beautiful even if others don’t think so.
Don’t settle for people in life who don’t respect you for what you’re truly worth. Because you are worth more than what you think. You are nobody’s second choice. You are not an inconvenience. You are smart enough, strong enough, and beautiful enough for anything and anyone. Stop comparing yourself to others because you are your own person. That’s the most important part. Be unique Be weird. Be different. But most importantly, be YOU. Know you’re worth babes. Never change and just be yourself. Self-love is crucial in one’s life. So go out there and show the world who you truly are. As always, thank you all for your support. God bless ❤